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It was the best of
times, it was the
worst of times.
Charles Dickens

Sometimes a person
has to go back, really
back – to have a sense, an understanding of all that’s gone to make them – before they
can go forward.
Paule Marshall

Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.
Doris Mortman

Nothing in the world takes the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more commonplace than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education alone will
not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and Determination alone
are omnipotent.
Calvin Coolidge

Module # 2 - Your Past - Introduction
When we look at our past and evaluate it, we can determine what has worked and what has not. We can evaluate the highs and lows, and decide what our future can be like. The exercise "Peaks and Valleys" asks you to chronicle your life on a time line. Go back to your earliest memories and indicate at what age that certain high or low memory had occurred.

Certain life events such as untimely deaths, earthquakes and fires are unavoidable. We can either choose to be devastated, or we can look for the blessings. There are always two ways to look at everything. We can be very sad from a death, but the blessing may awaken you to live your life more fully.  A fire may take away your earthly possessions, but the blessing may be that you have a new respect for people rather than things.

What this exercise will do is to identify what events have made an impact in your life. Rewarded for hard work or graduating from college are examples of positive impact situations. Losing a grandparent or being involved in an auto accident, would be negative experiences.

I would also like you to note the times "absolute joy" or "bliss" have occurred in your life. Was it the thrill of making the winning shot in a basketball game, or was it when you experienced the birth of a child? Write down the times and events that brought this great feeling your way.

It is good to look at your whole life on one time line to get the most impact from this exercise. Are most of your notes north or south of the time line?

You will then write down a brief history of your life. You can take the information from your lifeline but also chronicle other areas of your life that did not qualify to be placed on the line. Write about your friends and what you enjoy most and least about these people. Write about your working life and the jobs you held. What were the positives and negatives of each? Where have you traveled that you really enjoyed? Who did you travel with or what did you do on these travels that made them most memorable? Where have you lived in your life and what did you most enjoy about that location?

You will then critique the life you just wrote about. What goals haven’t you accomplished so far?

The next step is a repeat of your first lesson. Go out into nature, meditate (reflect on what you just wrote) and open yourself up to all the possibilities that exist in your the creation of a more ideal life. Do not place any limitations on what would help create a more ideal life. Know that almost anything can be accomplished, especially if you take it one step at a time, one day at a time and have a plan.

What is working and what isn't working in your life?

We will be determining how much of your life is working or is not working. We will be examining these aspects in your life. If something is not working, we will help you to find a solution that will better suit your needs.  For example, if you are spending too much time in front of the TV, and you neglect spending time with your wife, your kids or doing your taxes, the solution would be to turn off the TV.  Sure that sounds simple, but we create habits in our lives that are so automatic that even the simplest solutions evade us.

Do you spend 80% of your waking day working and find it is crowding out time with loved ones? Do you suffer from the disease to please and help others while sacrificing yourself? Are there areas that you do not include in your present lifestyle that you wish to add? Subtract? Do you plan your day or do you just let it happen? In a later class we will go into more detail about time management. Here we want you to understand the basics of where you now spend your time and if that time allocation is where you want it to be.

The premise of the Total Life Planning Institutes programs are that we believe you can realistically achieve just about anything you truly want in your life. All that is needed is to acknowledge what needs to be done, craft a plan and implement the plan. Often times the implementation of a life changing plan only takes short periods of time each day.They must be done consistently over long periods of time.

Can you see the benefits of looking at your past and not recreating the negatives in your future? YOUR PAST DOES NOT HAVE TO EQUAL YOUR FUTURE!  You do not have to remain stuck in the past.  Your past is not your destiny... you can change your destiny by simply by not repeating the past and creating a new PLAN!

We will first have you complete our exercises, and then we will have you answer a series of questions.

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